Tips on talking to mom & dad about not driving.
Talking to your folks about not driving is intimidating! Below are some discussion points to help you, including: questions to ask your loved ones, warning signs to consider, and some tips on how to handle this very delicate situation.
How will you know when it will be time to retire from driving?
Who should be involved in these conversations?
Who should NOT be involved in these conversations?
If you don’t notice in time, who should be the one to finally tell you it is time to retire from driving?
If you eventually retire from driving, can we agree that our goal will be to work out a plan to maintain independence?
Taking the Keys:
It’s better to come from a family member than the DMV or a judge due to a calamity.
Warning Signs to Consider:
Visual decline includes reduced depth perception, peripheral vision and more misperception due to glare.
Hearing loss reduces the ability to hear important warning signs and sounds.
Limited mobility can result in decreased response time, limited ability to turn your head, and delayed pedal control.
Drowsiness. Along with sleeping less as we age, medications can cause side effects resulting in extreme drowsiness.
Finally, have R.I.C.H. conversations: (filled with respect, integrity, compassion and honor)
First and foremost, try to understand their point of view. They have or are losing control over their independence. They may feel as if they have few options and “No” may feel like their only power.
It’s OK to feel uncomfortable, role reversal is new and unique, our aging parents did not come with an instruction manual!
Yes, you can do it!